How to Prepare for a Mediated Divorce in New York

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Some divorces end on bad terms and the couple can hardly stand to be in the same room. Generally, in this case, that couple will go through the process of litigation. This means that their divorce takes place in court, with a New York judge making decisions on their behalf. But, spouses who are able to work together may benefit from going through mediation to settle their divorce. This method allows both parties to engage in healthy negotiations regarding the terms of their divorce. This can include matters such as child custody, child support, the division of assets, and alimony. These sessions are guided by an unbiased mediator whose job is to help spouses reach their own decisions, not to make decisions on their behalf. Read on to learn more about the benefits of mediation and some tips for a successful experience: 

Benefits of Mediation

There are a variety of benefits to divorce mediation, including the following:

  • Control: Spouses have the liberty to make their decisions.
  • Confidentiality: The information shared in mediation cannot be discussed with anyone else or used against either party.
  • Speed: The length of mediation takes only as long as couples need to settle the issues they have to resolve. 
  • Cost: Mediation is a more cost-effective process than divorcing through trial.
  • Choice: Mediation is voluntary, as spouses have the choice to participate.
  • Family: Mediation allows for healthy conversations, which can benefit anyone that has family involved.

What to know about a successful mediation:

  • Pick the right mediator: It is important to work with a skilled mediator who understands the process and is looking out for the best interests of both parties.
  • Do your research: It is important to know what you want to get out of mediation. For example, what are your goals when it comes to child custody or the division of assets?
  • Be honest: It is important to be honest with your spouse and your mediator.
  • Keep a cool head: Mediation can be a difficult and emotional process but letting your emotions get the best of you can slow down the process and make things even more difficult.
  • Be open-minded: When it comes to mediation, you and your ex may have to compromise. It is important to know that you may not get exactly what you want.

To learn more about the mediation process, contact our firm today.


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