How Can I Have a Low Conflict Divorce in New York?

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There are many reasons why a divorce can occur in the state of New York. While they may sometimes be amicable, there are many cases in which spouses end their marriage on bad terms. These situations can often bring about a significant amount of hostility. However, it is important to know that this does not always have to be the case. There are ways for these divorces to occur with as little conflict as possible. Continue reading below to learn more and contact an experienced New York divorce attorney for help with your case.

How Can I Go Through a Non-Hostile Divorce?

Knowing how to de-escalate conflict in divorce proceedings can be beneficial for any case. This is especially so when there are children in the pictures. The following are a variety of different skills that can be useful to work through disagreements in a divorce to avoid hostility:

  • Practice radical acceptance. Failing to accept the reality of the situation you are in can cause unhealthy emotions to surface. This can include anger, which may impact the divorce proceedings. Acceptance can allow you to focus on making the best possible choices. 
  • Be a flexible thinker. Divorces do not have one sole outcome, which is why it is important to keep your mind open. Being able to compromise with your spouse can avoid conflict.
  • Manage your emotions. There are many heightened emotions that come with a divorce. That is why it is important to have healthy coping mechanisms so that you can process the emotions instead of letting them control the proceedings.
  • Effective communication is key in any divorce. This is especially so when spouses are not on good terms, as poor communication can cause further problems. Be sure to leave your feelings out of conversations and speak in a neutral tone.
  • While it is understandable to feel misunderstood or disrespected during a divorce, it is important to not worry about what your spouse thinks. Instead, it is best to focus solely on your own behavior. By being in control of your emotions and actions instead of concerning yourself with those of your spouse, you can minimize conflict. 

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